We are in an age where body positivity is IN. We are in an age where we are no longer seeing only size 0 plastered on our TV screens and social media. Thank god. Beauty at any size. That's what I want to dive into.
Acknowledge how you feel and talk about it.
While we are so lucky to be living in this era now, there's no lying that we grew up in the 2000's-2010's. Hello low rise jeans (I know they are making a comeback, so be it). You know what I am talking about. If you don't just google my girl Britney, Miley, Hilary, Lindsay...do I need to go on? Every movie, every tv show, every Tiger Beat magazine. It was all completely filled with women who were incredibly small. That was the unspoken expectation. For any girl who grew up during this time, who had any natural curve whatsoever, consider yourself screwed. If you were lucky enough to make it out of our childhood with mild body dysmorphia, bravo. If you are in your 20's and you are still struggling with your body image, I want you to know you're not alone. So many of us are doing far better than we were back then, but I would be lying if I said I loved what I saw in the mirror every time I stood in front of it. There was a time where I didn't want to wear tank tops because I hated the way my arms looked. No more.
Say f*** it and embrace your beautiful body.
Let me ask you something. If someone you loved were to describe you in a few words, what do you think they would say? When I think about some of my favorite people, I think: smart, driven, ambitious, independent, loyal, funny, kind, etc. Guess what? It would have nothing to do with your pants size. I promise you that the size of your clothes would never come up. The stretch marks, the blemishes, the extra pounds that you gained over the holidays. None of these things would scratch the surface of the conversation. Here's my piece of advice. Let yourself LIVE. There is so much more to life than that number on the scale (hell, I don't even own a scale anymore) or fitting into those jeans. I'm not saying to not care about what you look like. I know that is next to near impossible and your health is important, but at the same time, it should not be the first thing that you think of when you look in the mirror or get ready for the day. You have struggled and suffered through some grueling moments. You made it through your teen years of non-stop comparisons. And yet, your body is still here, fighting for you. Your body is your safe space. Be kind to it, whether you are at your "perfect" weight or not. There is no point in a "perfect" weight or a"dream" pants size if you are consistently putting yourself down to get there. Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Look in the mirror and be proud that the woman in the mirror made it through ALL of her darkest days and she's still standing there staring back at you. F*** the pants size.
Last thing...
You were not made to fit into your clothes. Your clothes were made to fit you. Remember that.
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